Relationship experts in here, need advice

[5.0Stanger]

I've read through all of this, and I can tell you this:

Whether she's jumped back on the drug bandwagon or not, she's got her head messed up. Basically, she's turning 18 soon. You're turning 21 soon. I doubt that she's figured out what living on her own is like. She'll find out soon. You, on the other hand, seem to have been out there for a while. You did what you could with this relationship. I'd get on with my life, if I were you. Stop checking up on her. If you have any reason to chat with her folks or friends, don't ever bring her up in conversation, again. Doing so will only keep you wondering WTF?!

I, basically, killed a relationship by constantly wondering about my ex. That's why she's your ex, because it's over. I spent YEARS trying to work things out with a girl, to no avail. It was on, then off, then again, then off again.

Your idea of living life is a great one. Just remember, don't be a dick, when/if she comes crawling back to you. Because if it was a drug problem or not, you weren't a dick to her before. She's still a human being. And, you'd hate it if you were treated the same way. Turning her away would be just as good as what you'd say to her. Just say, "No, Thanks."

[BOOMSHAKALAKA]

man to me it sounds like this girl is all trouble. as much as you like/love her it seems like everything is out of whack. she is a teenager and is starting to have "freedom" and it taking advantage of it too much.
also going back and looking through myspace and stuff like that is probably worse and going to make you even more sad. just be patient and see if anyone else comes along.
sounds like to me that she was your first love and you dont want to let her go..... i know... hard to do.
but just be patient and everything will unravel itself.

[93mustank]

Best thing to do is be around friends and get drunk every night..............

[1966PonyGirl]

yeah....live it ups! boobs, booze and designated drivers!

by the way.... i am surprised that there was the boobie smiley available! ha ha!

[BLK03SVT]

Alex- there are pleanty of good comments in this thread to take into consideration, and some good ones at that. Someday you'll look back on this whole thing and laugh. I do think Jeff hit it on the head- move on and enjoy all that this town has to offer. There are TONS of women in this town.

I strongly recommend a six pack of beer and the movie "Swingers". Although this may seem silly- the move has a ton of truth to it, not to mention it's a good flick and a great excuse to have a few beers too.

[OH3MGSVT]

Haha will do mike Im already feeling better about it already. Im not trying to get back into it but I found out that in the bag of pills she had, one of them was hydrocodone. Will that have a major effect on her and all this?

[Ruckus46gt]

Haha will do mike Im already feeling better about it already. Im not trying to get back into it but I found out that in the bag of pills she had, one of them was hydrocodone. Will that have a major effect on her and all this?

to be honest that wouldnt have a major effect. Hyrdocodine is vicodin so its a pain killer just makes you drowsey basically and with some drinks its just enhances the feeling....so i'm told

[BLK03SVT]

I don't know anything about pills....hell i rarely take advil.

[OH3MGSVT]

Yeah thats it im done worrying about it, saw on accident by going on her moms myspace she put a new pic of her up kissing that guy (who looks ugly as **** btw) and her mood said something like "cant wait for the future" and was excited. I can guarantee you he doesnt want anything serious with her but W/E he is just gonna string her a long and break her heart like she did mine, unless she realizes what she is doing first. But not gonna worry about it, not gonna go on her moms myspace anymore and just gonna go on a girl hunt this weekend to keep my mind off of things and to get over it.

[RyanV]

You are about to be 21. That is definitely not the time to be in a serious relationship. I would not have had 10% of the fun I had in my early 20s if I was in a relationship. Look at it this way. You can go out and meet new people now with nobody to answer too. If you want to dance with a defferent girl every night at the clubs then you can do that. Wanna bring 1 or two girls home with you? You can do that with nobody to answer to. Let her go, move on and enjoy one of the best years of your life. Carpe Diem.